Titration
by Crystal Craig
They tell me to titrate.
To measure emotion in drops,
like acid in a lab—
volatile, dangerous, contained.
They say it’s safer this way.
Kinder to the parts of me that flinch
at the sound of my own heartbeat.
But I am not a chemistry set.
I am not meant to be doled out
in milliliters of manageable sadness.
I am thunder held in a mason jar,
lightning in the root cellar
that never got to crack open the sky.
I have always titrated.
I have choked on half-sobs,
laughed quieter than I needed,
muffled joy, restrained grief,
for fear of being too loud,
too much,
too tender.
So no, this advice doesn’t sit right.
It settles like a stone on my lungs—
clinical, cautious, disconnected
from the animal in me
that needs to howl.
When I obey,
something inside me screams—not just in protest
but in mourning
for the thousand times I chose safety
over wholeness.
For the sacred storms I canceled
because others might get wet.
But I am a force of nature,
not a faucet.
And I no longer want
my wildness
to apologize for its weather.
I want to laugh and scream and sob
and not brace for fallout—
not scan the room to see who’s frightened,
who’s disappointed,
who’s quietly rearranging themselves
so I don’t spill onto their rug.
I don’t just want to be survived.
I want to be welcomed.
Cheered on.
Met with dancing and drumming and open arms
when I finally crack open
and let it all through.
I want the world to say:
“Ah, finally. You’re free.”
And then breathe with me,
not despite me.
With me.
Can I count you in?